It's Not Always Personal

Friday, April 29, 2022

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To the sensitive, to the over-thinkers, like me- IT'S NOT ALWAYS PERSONAL.

As someone special to me use to say, "It's not always about you."

You ever have one of those "AH HA" moments? A moment where you're like, "How in the world is this JUST now making sense to me?" I had one of those a couple days ago.

One of my forever friends that knows the depths of my heart. I mean.... a forever friend. They can call me out in love when it is needed and also gently reminds me of truth when it is needed.

Something was said in that conversation to me that I can't stop thinking about. In essence, something was said along the lines of:

Everyone's reality can be different.

People see the world through the experiences they've had

and what they know as their "normal".

People have their own perceptions based on these factors. etc.

To some of you all, that's like "duh".

I've heard it other times, too.

But for the first time. It hit me.

and freed me.

And I finally thought, "Wow. It's not always personal."

It also made me realize how selfish and insecure I can be sometimes. Because of MY past experiences, I have a tendency to project rejection. But that's not fair to those around me. Because it's not always personal.

For example, if I meet someone who is a bit standoff-ish, I have been tempted to think, "This person doesn't like me."

BUT MAYBE IT JUST TAKES THEM A MINUTE TO OPEN UP.

Think about who you are. And why you are the way that you are. Think about your experiences. Maybe your subconscious assumptions.

Because of someone else's experience, they may be hesitant to open up or be vulnerable. Not because they don't like you. But because it's not natural for them OR maybe they've been burned or hurt in the past.

Someone doesn't respond to your message, email, DM. - Maybe they're busy. Maybe they didn't see it. Maybe they've had a bad day.

It's not always personal. I pray this reminder begins to free you the way it has started to free me.

with love, trin.